So I'm a bad mom! I made Allison cry today! I feel really bad! I'm just trying to get some answers regarding the wedding......but I need to back off! I guess if things are booked before I get answers....it wasn't meant to be! I hear that I am also giving the impression that I am planning everything instead of letting Allison.....so I really need to back off!
We do have a lot decided and the dress already so we are doing good. This is not what I wanted to make her feel like. I am so sorry!
Clementine
1 year ago
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It's normal. Seriously, it is. My mom and I are BEST FRIENDS...but I couldn't stand her when we were planning my wedding. :) It's hard NOT to try and do what you can for your daughter. And we brides always tend to over-react! We don't see it as HELP, we see it as taking over. It's hard to give advice, too....b/c I know now, as I look back, that I couldn't have done anything without my mom!! And I've spent alot of time apologizing for making her life h-e-l-l during that period.
But keep on, because you are right! Things get booked up FAST! My sister in law moved her wedding date as I was trying to help her plan...and I couldn't find anything b/c even having 6 months is LAST MINUTE. We ended up in Provo Canyon eating on picnic benches. Pretty, but wedding? I think not.
OK~! So I've backtracked and read all the entries about Allison and it's so wonderful! so exciting!!! He does look very fine - a real prince and princess....
As for getting too involved "too soon" -- I've told my daughter-in-laws that we'll have a code word between us. If I ever start treading where they'd rather I didn't they say: "Bulldozer Mom". And I know to back off with a big grin in my face!
LOVE YOU!
Mona
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It is hard not to get too involved when planning weddings. Diane's was pretty easy because she was in town so we could do things together. Julie lived in AZ at the time she got engaged and I just let her give me the date and then tried to find a building to have it in. I let his family who live in Utah take care of things there. I made a lot of the stuff for the weddings by hand and always sent pictures to Julie to make sure she approved (thank goodness for e-mail). I think the idea of a code word is awesome. You really want and need to help but at their convenience. Good luck...it will all be great. Let me know if I can help in any way. I make pretty awesome wedding cakes if you are needing that.
Mona,
He is amazing and they seem perfect for each other. He is so easy going and happy all the time...just what an aispiring actress needs although I am happy to say that she is changing her major to theatre education. Code word is an excellent idea. I'll try that!
Thanks, Sarah, I too remember that I did and said things when my mom and I were planning a wedding that I didn't mean and felt bad about later...I'll just be patient.
Thanks to you both!
Kim, thanks for your advice and support! I will definitely keep you in mind for the cake! Like I said...I'm backing off...so I'll see what Allison's thinks. I have seen your cake you made for the RS enrichment metg so I know you have the talent!
The hard part is she wants to stay out there and I'm thinking if we can't plan now while we are apart then how can we do anything if she stays out there....whewwww! Who knew it would be so emotional! Plus I think we need her at home at least for a couple of months! This will be the last time after all!
Thanks, Kim!
You're not a bad mom at all! You're an EXCITED mom! My mom is sweet and annoying, I think it's normal...
Thanks Ahsley!
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